Models
Messaging
How We Turn Matches into Meetings
The MatchMaxxing Messaging Model
Even with a world-class profile, one wrong message can kill your chances, and you’ll never hear from her again. So when you consider that men outnumber women 3:1 on dating apps, being a master wordsmith isn’t optional—it’s essential.
The MatchMaxxing Messaging System uses 4 stages to take clients from matches to messages to physical Meetings:
1. Attraction
2. Comfort & Rapport
3. Date Requests & Logistics
4. Closing
Phase 1: Attraction
We start with a message that stands out. Either referencing her profile and making a fun observation about her, or teasing her playfully. The goal is to send a message that baits her into replying and then flirt back and forth over messages until attraction has been established.
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The attraction phase generally tends to be 3-4 messages back & forth.
Client Cheat Sheets:
MatchMaxxing clients are given a fully customised personal copy & paste cheat sheet to help convert their matches into physical meetings. This template messaging model seamlessly guides conversations from opening message, all the way through to securing a physical, in person meeting.
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Phase 2: Comfort & Rapport
Next, we pivot the flirty conversation into rapport-based topics so she feels comfortable enough with the idea of an in-person meeting (a date). Striking the correct balance of rapport & attraction is essential for most women to feel trusting enough to be open to the idea of a date request (coming next in phase 3).
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It’s important in most conversations to exchange some basic details about your life, whilst keeping it fun and playful.
Speaking in statements, relating conversational topics to yourself & relating on a personal level with short stories builds trust.
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The comfort phase of the conversation usually lasts 4-5 messages back & forth.
Phase 3: Date Requests
The next step is to transition the conversation to a date request using our Date Ladder system.
In the conversation, we typically present our prospective date with two choices, both leading to the same end destination—a face-to-face, in-person meeting.
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Using baby steps we predictably move the conversation inch by inch towards an agreed meeting.
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Our battle-tested texting system has a 100% success rate in improving results, with clients typically quadrupling their reply ratios. You will never achieve a 100% first-message-to-in-person-date ratio (anyone who says you can is probably trying to sell you something). However, what you can do is substantially increase your conversion rate. Even the most skilled texting Lotharios will never get a reply to every opening message, but all it takes is a small percentage of successful conversions to have multiple dates per week. Welcome to the beauty of the numbers game.
Phase 4: Closing
Date logistics are typically arranged off the dating app, so exchanging contact information is done only at the very end of the messaging funnel.
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Offering 2 options always provides the highest chance of compliance.
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‘I’m free Tuesday or Thursday’
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‘You prefer WhatsApp or Telegram’
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